# Accepting what is Created On: 11-01-2022 09:01 am Type: #note/literature📖 #source/quote Topics: [[Amor Fati (MOC)]], [[Stoicism (MOC)]], [[Providence]], [[Happiness (MOC)]] --- ## Literature >Don't seek for everything to happen as you wish it would, but rather wish that everything happens as it actually will – then your life will flow well. > >– [[Epictetus]] >To wish for what has happened is a clever way to avoid disappointment because **nothing is contrary to your desires**. But to actually feel gratitude for what happens? To love it? That's a recipe for happiness and joy! > >– [[Ryan Holiday]] ## Notes * [[Disappointment thrives between your expectations and reality]]... * Meaning that we have absolute control over our disappointment and more importantly, recognizing that [[Happiness is found in every moment]]. ^dbce57 * This ties well into the idea of [[Impermanence]] as well - the idea that change is necessary and that in most cases, change **will not be aligned with what we want, but more profoundly, what we need** - whether we know it in that moment or not. * For it is every experience, every decision, every reality that has made you who you are today. For who would you otherwise be if fate were in your control? This is cloudy even to think of in general... * Therefore, **why do you cling to everything being your way?!** * STOP and accept... [[To accept it without arrogance, to let it go with indifference]] * This idea is furthered by [[Amor Fati (MOC)]]. It isn't simply enough to accept events that are good as the only acceptable outcome, but realizing that there is good in everything and that we must **love all of it**. * Without this... We lead a life of maligned expectations... never recognizing the silver lining in all moments; how every moment can temper who we aspire to become... * Some alignment here when thinking about [[Prioritize values over goals]] * Focus less on goals/outcomes and more on character or who you aspire to intrinsically be. * Ryan asks a great question: "what is easier to change? Our opinion (on the matter) or the event that has past?" * The obviousness of this question is brilliant. However, in-practice, we often seem to find frustration with the event - like our opinion is this inherent truth: [[Opinion not fact, perspective not truth]] * This ties to [[Perception]] - the core of our ability to deal and truly reason positively with what life sends our way. Maybe more allegorically, our [[Inner Citadel]]. --- ## Reference(s) 1. [[Enchiridion]] 8 - [[Epictetus]] 2. [[The Daily Stoic - Book]] p. 326 - [[Ryan Holiday]]