# 41 The Red Thread *Week 8, Day 2 of [[00 The Wealthy Stoic Course]]* #source/course << [[40 Beware The Dress-Suit Bribe|Back]] | [[42 Does It Make You Better Or Worse|Next]] >> ⁠ ## Content At birth, each of us is original. Our DNA has never existed before on this planet. No one will ever have our unique set of experiences. No one will ever have our totally unique point of view. There has never been anyone like us…and there never will be again. We have been given a complete and total monopoly over the business of being us. Yet what do we do with this rarest of rarities? We give it up! We choose not to be ourselves. We become our own trustbuster. That’s something we love about the Stoics. They were characters. The Stoics were not afraid to be themselves, to be seen as weird. Epictetus tells us about the Stoic Agrippinus being asked why he was so difficult, why he couldn’t just conform to the same practices as everyone else. “I want to be the red, that small and brilliant portion which causes the rest to appear comely and beautifully…’be like the majority of people?’ And if I do that,” Agrippinus liked to answer, “How shall I any longer be the red?” ⁠ Sure, being ‘red’ got Agrippinus into trouble. It also made him great. It made him one of the only people who actively resisted the tyranny and injustices of Nero’s regime. It made him famous for all time. When we are ourselves, we have value. When we are like everyone else…we are fungible. We are replaceable–by definition. We have little value…by definition. Peter Thiel has said before that the only kind of business worth making is one where you can have a monopoly. The profits, he said, are in owning an entire market. So it goes with ourselves as individuals. You want to be just another investment banker? You want to be another business writer publishing the same boring books that quote the same boring studies with the same bland covers fighting for spots at the same bland conferences? No way. BE YOU. Be the only one of you in the whole world. Be the red. That’s where the fun is (without having to fake it). That’s where the money is (you can name your price). That’s where the value is (you can’t be replaced). When Ryan Holiday and his wife decided to open a bookstore, The Painted Porch, they bought a course from a bookstore consultant. One of the first things the book consultant said was to carry at least 10,000 titles. That’s what the average indie bookstore carries. It was an unques­tioned assumption in the industry. With The Painted Porch, they did the opposite of that, choosing to only carry roughly 600 titles. The vast majority of them are not new, or even particularly famous. But they are books _they_ have loved over the years. It turned out to be one of the best business decisions they could have made. Not only did this make it cheaper and easier to run the bookstore, it makes The Painted Porch stand out. If people want a specific book, they go to a certain trillion-dollar e-commerce behemoth. If people want to discover new books and have a unique experience, they go to The Painted Porch.  The Stoics had a head for business in that way. Two thousand years before Peter Thiel said, “competition is for losers,” Epictetus quipped, “You can always win if you only enter competitions where winning is up to you.” When you’re the fortieth Indian restaurant in town, your chances of success are dependent on so many things outside your influence: how good the other restaurants are, who gets the best location, whether the critic at the local paper likes your biryani. The margins of victory are likely to be small, even if you do get lucky, because the spoils are split between so many competitors. Worse still, if your success and happiness are dependent on winning that kind of difficult contest and you don’t win, you have set yourself up to be a double loser. It’s far better then, if you were to launch a restaurant, to come up with something totally new, or to create a new kind of dining experience for which you can have a monopoly (there is a wonderful book on this called [_Blue Ocean Strategy_](https://www.thepaintedporch.com/products/business5?_pos=1&_sid=3274e2635&_ss=r)_)_. Where the contest is not with other people, but with being the best version of yourself. It’s better still that you so enjoy this endeavor that your happiness comes from the process and the pursuit itself, rather than the outcome. In this way, you’re set up, if not guaranteed, to be a double winner. Too many people pointlessly enter contests where the outcome is dependent on forces outside their control. They think it’s safer to be like everyone else…when in fact, what they’re really doing is hiding themselves in the chorus, protecting themselves from judgment. They’re less likely to be singled out and laughed at, sure, but they’re guaranteeing that they’ll never really be noticed or appreciated. Theirs becomes the Indian restaurant that will never be great, but it will never be closed. That is the best you can expect when you’re not playing to win…you’re playing not to lose. How sad that is. What a waste of their uniqueness. “When I teach a class” [the great architect and designer Frank Gehry said](https://torontolife.com/real-estate/frank-gehry-has-a-few-things-to-get-off-his-chest/), “the first thing I do with students is ask them to write their signature on a piece of paper. And we spread them out and I say, ‘They all look different and that’s you, and that’s you, and that’s you, so stay with that forever.’” Staying with that forever doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll be the biggest or most popular thing in the world. But it does mean you’ll have a monopoly. And that you’ll always be a winner. The wise, whether it’s an [[Epictetus]] or a Peter Thiel, know that the better contest is with yourself. They know the best route to success is to be yourself. And to stay that way forever. - - - ## Activity **How are you, YOU?** Seriously! Write it down. What makes you different from the rest? What are your strengths? How are you the red?