# Check your mental cup after you leave a social engagement Created On: 07-07-2023 07:38 am Up:: [[Friendship (MOC)]] Tags:: #note/evergreen🌲 Topics:: Related:: Social [[Conforming vs Transforming|conforming]]: [[When the tail wags the dog]]? --- All you need to do to figure out if you're truly surrounding yourself with great people is to check your metaphorical mental cup when you're done hanging out with them. With great friends, you can show up with an empty cup and leave authentically filled. With most people, however, you'll show up with a full cup and leave empty. Monitor that. Surround yourself with people who fill your cup. Life is too short to surround ourselves with people who only take and leave us feeling empty. [[Find your tribe]]. If you feel a need to continue to choose to put yourself around those people who drain your cup (because, you always have the choice: [[Know no]]), know that you're likely being [[Conforming vs Transforming]]: you're not being served in the way you should and you're [[Growth (MOC)]] depends on people who care about you and will challenge you to be transformed into more of yourself: [[Good friends transform you, not conform you]].