# Respond not react Created On: 09-08-2023 09:55 am Up:: [[Parenting (MOC)]], [[Marriage (MOC)]] Tags:: #note/evergreen🌲 Topics:: [[Communication]] Related:: --- When we respond, we're thoughtful in our communication. We think more about what we're going to say outright or in response to another person, why that response may or may not be important or right, and if that's the best angle to come at it from - does it elevate the trajectory of my point or this conversation, especially in a meaningful and loving way, etc. There's an elevated [[Mindfulness (MOC)]] in the way we conduct ourselves when we deliberate/think, especially our communication. In this case, it's as if we're empowering and holding ourselves accountable for navigating our mind and life. On the opposite side, when you react, you allow your instincts and emotions to domineer your communication and actions. We're giving up control and it is often never right. Reacting hurts people, especially those whom you love. Be love, be thoughtful, and mindful: respond, don't react. A single question to ask: > How would Mason at his best handle this? This gives you a prompt and an opportunity to not only check yourself, but challenge yourself to be better. Because, that definition of "best" should continue to change/improve as we realize better and better forms of ourself. In that moment, all we do is apply it; apply our best self simply by giving it permission to manifest.